Passion Test: How To Get Divorced And Be Happy With Your Ex

Get the keys that help millions open the door to an exciting and passionate life and also transcend the typical baggage of divorce in Part 1 highlights of my radio conversation for A Love That Lasts with Janet Bray Attwood.

Janet is the NY Times bestselling co-author of The Passion Test: Discovering the Effortless Path to Your Destiny. She has helped millions of people find the easy and exciting path to the life you love.

Hadley: Passion is the key to your destiny. Let’s help people who want even more love and excitement in life. Let’s help people get from where they are now to where they want to be, reaching their peak of passion, pleasure and performance in life and love.

When you start a new journey, you need a new map to guide you. Your new map is The Passion Test. It has helped millions of people effortlessly find their way to an exciting, fun and fulfilling destination. Janet, tell us how you were guided to find an effortless path to your own destiny during an early trip to India.

Janet: It led me on one of my paths, which was interviewing teachers from all over the world. In The Passion Test, we say that when you are clear about what you choose to show up in your life, it will, and only to the extent that you are clear about it. That was something that became super clear to me, because it was a great love of mine, since I went to India more than five times.

Hadley: Aren’t you in India right now?

Janet: Right now, I’m in Germany with Chris Atwood, my co-author of The Passion Test. He is also my ex-husband, my best friend, and my business partner. I stay with his wife, his wife’s mother and his two daughters. I am his godmother.

Hadley: It’s amazing how you and Chris can go through a divorce, and end up being loving and friendly business partners, like godmother to your ex-husband’s children and a friend to your wife. How did you make that happen?

Janet: The world is the way you are. The world will reflect how you are with yourself. Both Chris and I have practiced TM mediation for many years. That really helped with the transition of getting divorced. We did not go to war with each other. We just realized that the relationship as we knew it was over.

We also knew it was crazy for people to fall in love, to say, “I love you forever,” and then just because something goes wrong, they decide they can’t see each other again and become mortal enemies. . Chris and I found that crazy.

Here is someone you loved more than anyone in the world. Just because they didn’t do things your way or you didn’t do things their way, you think they can’t be in each other’s world. We thought, “How sad is that.”

Chris and I are also practitioners of Byron Katie’s work.

Hadley: I love your “response procedure”.

Janet. It is a process to undo limiting beliefs. Byron Katie says that when you are attached to how things should be instead of how things are, you will feel one of three things: pain, separation, and suffering.

Chris and I are big proponents of consciously loving what is. So don’t let concepts ruin your world. It is a concept that an ex-wife cannot be best friends with a new wife. When we allow these concepts to take over our world, then our world becomes very small and very limited.

Byron Katie says that until you can say to a loved one walking out the door, “Honey, let me help you pack your bags,” you still haven’t arrived. Love is unconditional when you allow someone to walk the path they need to walk.

Hadley: You make it sound easy, but that was the hardest journey I’ve ever been on — getting to the point where I could wish my husband well after he left.

Janet: If you think about it, it’s harder to hold on to your pain, separation, stories about what others have done to you.

Hadley: That pain can be fatal, if you don’t release it.

Janet: So walk from the place where there are no victims here. You create your reality. Seeing each moment is a gift. That sounds trite but true. The Universe is configured so that each moment serves in some way.

Nobody said it was easy. However, it is much more difficult not to be that loving presence and hold on to that pain. You can let go, and do it in a way that comes from your gut that I want for you what you want for yourself. Until you get to that place, it’s more painful than not.

Hadley: I agree. It’s good to thank your great teachers for giving you the lessons you needed to learn at that time, to see with new eyes.

Janet: And you can use tools like Byron Katie’s work to undo limiting beliefs that will change your life in minutes. Using the passion test is a tool. The reason you wake up dissatisfied with your life is that you are not making decisions about how to do your own inner work, because the world is who you are. If you are love inside, you attract love.

The whole world is a reflection of where we are right now. So dive into the crevices of the soul and forgive, surrender, appreciate and get rid of, letting go of the concepts that create terrorism in the mind.

Hadley: You are an inspiration to everyone. How do we find clues about the best path for an exciting and passionate life?

Find out in Part 2 the highlights of my radio conversation with Janet Bray Attwood for A Lasting Love.