Break the bondage of hate and resentment

There are some things we find easy to forgive. When a baby gets wet on top of us, we can forgive. When the puppy reduces a magazine to shredded paper, we can forgive. But when other people who “should know better” are involved, we have trouble forgiving. And there is a reason for this.

Forgiveness goes against our basic nature. The Bible tells us vividly that we are selfish because we choose to be selfish. Therefore, forgiving in itself is an act of true courage, and it is also an essential part of love. As they say, “if we can’t forgive, we can’t love.”

It has been said that there are two great tragedies in this life. The first is not to accept God’s forgiveness for the damage we have caused him. In one case, 9/11 cites the effect of an inhumane act of terrorism. As a result, several people slowly died on the busy streets of New York. Although it is difficult to forgive those who have done such an act, but if we recognize God’s forgiveness in our soul for all the small and big mistakes we made, we can forgive even those who hurt us the most. The facts about 9/11 not only open our eyes and minds, but also solidify the essence of forgiveness over pride.

The second great tragedy in life is not forgiving others for the damage they caused us. If a friend or a brother hurt us, let’s free ourselves from the slavery of grudges. Forgiving a friend is not a sign of weakness, but it is a sign of recognizing that humans as we are, we are not perfect.

What is forgive?

What do we mean when we say “you are forgiven”? It may be helpful to first note what forgiveness is not. Forgiveness is not indifference. Saying “let’s forget about it” is not dealing with the problem. It is to ignore the problem temporarily.

To forgive is also to disagree with evil. Some people think that saying “I forgive you” really means “what you did is right, it wasn’t wrong.” But that is not the case. Forgiving simply means that we are freeing ourselves from the chains of not forgiving. That means we have no rights over the other person. In other words, we free ourselves from the slavery of bitterness and resentment.

We can only forgive in one way; Letting go of our pride It is pride that stands in the way of forgiveness. That is why, especially in delicate matters when we have been wounded to the core, we cannot forgive without acknowledging imperfections and giving up pride.