Brain chemical relationship: should we give in and give them what they want?
Couples, I am writing this article out of necessity. The brain chemistry of gender and relationship has reached new heights. We can attribute these new heights to the work of several research pioneers that have emerged over the past decade. The new findings never published so far give hope to couples around the world.
As you read this article, you will learn about the intricate workings of the brain or central nervous system, which will convince you that giving your partner what they want is the remedy for any sick relationship. I will share with you four points, simple and succinct, that will show what the researchers have discovered.
Point 1 – Studies have shown that in our brain there are physiological chemical mechanisms that work to slow us down. They work to promote growth and recovery in an environment that can be very stressful at times. More importantly, these mechanisms promote calm and connection in couples.
Point 2– Two hormones, long associated with influences on sexuality, have been found to influence the way men and women react to stress. As human beings, we have the ability to influence the production of these two hormones by virtue of certain behaviors. These hormones are oxytocin and testosterone.
Point # 3– The two hormones, present in both men and women, are essential for calm, connection and the sexual response cycle. Couples’ reactions to stress have recently received increased attention in the wake of failed relationships across the country and the world.
Point # 4 – The heart of this research has shown that for couples to live in peace and harmony, our bodies must replenish oxytocin and testosterone daily. Low levels of oxytocin and testosterone in the blood can significantly affect our ability to handle stress. Relationships suffer adverse effects when stores are not replenished.
We replenish our reserves by virtue of our evolutionary development. In the case of women, they replenish oxytocin in many ways, such as by combing their hair. You can go for a walk, do light exercise, or just take a moment to stretch. Meditation and breathing exercises work too.
Like your partner, you can replenish your oxytocin by hugging her in the morning. Hug her before going to bed. Tell her you love her. Take her dancing. Blood levels rise exponentially by reading a relationship book with her or attending a workshop if you wish.
Men replenish testosterone by going out for a walk, when he completes projects, or when he is allowed to sit in his favorite recliner after a long day at work. In caveman terms, he needs his time in the cave after a long day of hunting and keeping his family safe, to replenish his testosterone. Success, Power, and Results Boost Testosterone.
I could go on and on. Most hormone-boosting activities cost absolutely nothing. Nothing. Nothing. The replacement can be done individually or together, and as a couple, you decide. That only increases your oxytocin.
You will soon learn that giving our partners what they want will pay huge dividends in the bedroom. You will re-experience the love and romance that were once a very important part of your lives. In fact, it will be significantly better. It empowers you as a couple once you figure out how to make these hormones work for you.