Stay strong in crisis
As I write this, we have all been asked to stay home as much as possible due to the pandemic. This puts a strain on both individuals, who may be very lonely right now, and couples, who may be struggling with needing time and space to be alone. Everyone is worried and feeling stressed. Here’s how to stay strong in this crisis.
1. To stay strong, stay connected with colleagues, friends, and family. Even though you may not be able to be in personal, physical contact with the people you care about, you can still use phone, video, FaceTime, and other technology to see and talk to those close to you. You and your colleagues can talk and support each other during this crisis.
2. Take time to understand what you are feeling and experiencing. If you are having emotional reactions that are not normal for you, such as angry outbursts or anxiety, take time to feel the feelings. Don’t be afraid to cry or express what you feel. If you can, write it down. It’s amazing how writing down your fears makes them more manageable.
3. Talk to other people who understand you and let them know how you feel and find out how they feel. Don’t say you’re “fine” when someone asks you. Let them know how you are really doing and find out about them. You will feel much better after sharing and learning that others are going through the same difficulties. If you have children, play with them and talk about how everyone is feeling.
4. Try to spend time outdoors, even if it’s in your own backyard or a nearby park. Being near grass, trees, and flowers helps ease tension. Just keep your distance from others.
5. If you have a pet, hug it. Petting a dog or cat can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and give you a mental break.
6. Talk to a mental health professional. Even if it’s a phone or video session, talking with a mental health professional can help you understand your feelings and manage stress.
7. Meditate: If you can have a quiet moment alone, just sit and focus on your breathing until you feel yourself relaxing. You can pray, or you can just sit quietly, counting your breaths.
8. Get moving: Take a walk in your yard or outside, as long as you stay away from other people. Walking briskly for ten to fifteen minutes can give you a chance to relax and de-stress.
8. Put on relaxing music: Angry rock or rap probably won’t help, but relaxing music—whether it’s classical, meditative, or upbeat—can help you greatly reduce stress.
I hope you are safe and well, and I wish you all a speedy end to this crisis.
© 2020 Tina B. Tessina It Ends With You: Growing Out Of Dysfunction